Adoption

Typical Open Adoption

A typical open adoption means that the biological parents
are permitted to have some type of contact with the adopted
child.

This can be accomplished many different ways. By phone is
the easiest way but sometimes e-mail, letters, or even
personal visits might be an option.

This contact doesn’t always mean both sets of parents will
ever meet each other in person. Many times the adoption
agency or other organization will receive pictures and
updates from the adoptive parents and forward them to the
biological parents.

Obviously, having the adoptive parents spend time with the
biological parents might be an uncomfortable ordeal for
everyone.

Before the adoption takes place, all types of contact as
well as specific dates for visits or phone calls are
arranged.

This schedule and set of rules is very important to the
biological parents who have agreed to the open adoption. By
not getting pictures when expected or missing phone calls,
it can be very emotionally stressful.

By using the adoption agency as a middle man, it saves a
lot of emotional stress for everyone involved. The agency
acts as a mediator so the adoptive parents don’t have to
deal with the biological parents directly.

Open adoptions could be as little as a name exchange before
adoption up to full contact by the biological family so you
need to make sure everyone agrees on the terms beforehand.

It is much easier for adoptive parents to really feel the
child is there own if there is minimal interference from
the biological parents but sometimes it just isn’t an
option.

Putting Your Child Up For Adoption

Even considering putting your child up for adoption can be
one of the most difficult things a parent will ever have to
do in their lives.

The decision, however, is a gesture of love because you
know you are doing what is the best for that child and
their future.

There are many ways to put your child up for adoption and
also many different reasons this might be a good option or
the only option.

Sometimes, a parent or parents might know from the start
that adoption is the best way to go. This can be due to
many different factors.

The parent or parents might be very young, they might know
they can’t handle a child due to emotional or mental
issues, or they might not be able to support a child
financially.

All of these or a combination of them can lead to a
decision to put a child up for adoption.

There are a couple common types of adoption available if
you are in this situation.

There is the closed adoption where you give your child to
an agency that later places the child. This type doesn’t
allow you to give any input whatsoever. The agency will
make the choice they feel is best.

Open adoption might allow you to choose who the adopted
parents will be and have visits or other contact available
throughout the years.

Before you decide what type of adoption is the best for
you, it’s always a good idea to consult an adoption
attorney.

Each country and state have different laws regarding
adoption and it’s a good idea to get familiar with them
before you do anything at all.

Open Adoption With Biological Family Contact

Open adoption is when a child gets adopted but the
biological parents are still allowed to have a relationship
with the child.

Depending on the agreement, extended family may be
permitted to be involved as well. This means the child’s
biological aunts, uncles, grandparents and any other
relatives could be part of the child’s life.

This sounds appealing to many people but has many hardships
associated with it. It can be a wonderful thing if
everything goes smoothly but people tend to disagree on
things by nature and even more so when it involves the
raising of a child.

The most obvious difficulty arises with the adoptive
parents having to see the biological family members once in
a while.

The biological family members might give input on how to
raise the child and other advice that may be unwanted. This
can lead to conflicts and emotional turmoil for everyone
involved including the child.

The best way to ensure an open adoption runs smoothly is to
set up a strict set of rules and make sure everyone adheres
to them at all times.

Schedules must be kept and everything has to be explained
fully to the child when they are old enough to understand
the situation. This contract is usually set up far in
advance.

An open adoption does have the benefit of providing a
gigantic support system for the child that will last a
lifetime. As long as both parties get along, they can
interact together once in a while and do all kinds of fun
stuff together.

This will instill a great sense of worth in the child as so
many people love them and take care of them but can be
confusing at times. This type of open adoption isn’t very
common because most adoptive parents want a child to
themselves.

Is Adoption Right For You?

How can you tell if adoption is right for you? This can be
one of the hardest questions to answer.

Adoption is one of the most difficult and life changing
events you will ever face. This child is going to be a part
of you for the rest of your life.

If you just feel like you need something to take care of,
consider a puppy. A child is a huge responsibility and you
will need to face all the good times and the bad times with
no regrets.

An obvious benefit of adoption is that not only do you gain
a new member of your family, you also give a family to a
child without one.

This is a great thing to do for another human being. People
choose to adopt for many reasons. Maybe the woman doesn’t
want to carry a baby for 9 months, maybe there is an
infertility issue or maybe you just want to reach out and
help make the world a little bit better. Only you know the
reason you want to adopt a child.

Before even considering adoption you need to look inside
yourself. Do you have the patience to handle a child?

Children are not easy to tolerate all the time. If you’ve
ever seen that parent in the store with the child running
around misbehaving, you have a tiny glimpse into
parenthood.

Children don’t always do what you want or grow up to be who
you want them to be. They will grow up to be themselves
instead.

Before adopting, make sure you have the parenting skills,
finances, and above all, the time and love to give the
child a wonderful environment where they can grow up and
thrive in.

Infertility and Adoption

For many couples, adoption might be the only option to have
a child. Sometimes people go many years trying to conceive
only to find out there is some medical issue that is
stopping them.

This could be due to either the man or the woman having
reproductive problems. This can be devastating to couples
that really want to have a child.

Luckily, adoption is a great alternative and is beneficial
to two parties. The adoptive parents finally get the child
they have always wanted and the child gets a great set of
parents that will love and take care of them.

There are many different types of adoption that can be
considered. Open adoption allows the biological parents and
sometimes extended family members some level of contact.

Closed adoption keeps the biological parents secret so
there is little chance of ever meeting them. There are also
many different levels of open adoption.

Some open adoptions are sending pictures once in a while to
a third party and some allow visitation. This is something
to consider but you should do whatever makes you the most
comfortable.

Adopting a child from overseas allows a child from a less
fortunate country get a much better life but can have its
difficulties.

If the child is of a different race than yours, there might
be some confusion and a lot of explaining as the child gets
older.

If you do find out you or your spouse is infertile,
adoption remains one of the best options out there. If you
know in your heart you would make a great parent, that is a
gift that should definitely not go to waste.

Foster Child Adoption

Foster children present a very unique situation for
prospective parents. Foster children have either been given
up by their parents or placed in the system by a government
agency for one reason or another.

Foster children often move from parents to parents
throughout their lives due to behavioral or other issues
such as not fitting in with the adoptive parents lifestyle.

To consider adopting a foster child you really need to know
what is in store beforehand.

Before considering foster child adoption, you have to take
a hard look at yourself and what you expect out of a child
as well as visit an agency that handles adoptions of this
type.

They will usually sit down and explain the entire process
to you. The entire thing is very long and it will be a
while before a child comes to your house.

The agency will have files on a number of children you can
look over. Usually the stories that accompany the children
are sad, especially for older children.

There is often a history of behavioral, emotional, or
mental problems. This could be due to illnesses or abuse.

The age of the foster child is very important as well. Many
foster children grow older and haven’t been placed so it
can be hard or even impossible for them to accept you as a
true parent.

Trust is much harder to gain in an older child than it is
with a newborn or toddler.

The benefits of foster child adoption are many. You get to
provide a stable life for a child and develop a very
special relationship that might reach parent-child stage
over time. This can be one of the most rewarding things in
the world.

Closed Adoption

Closed adoption is when a parent or parents adopt a child
but the records of the biological parents are kept a
secret.

Obviously, this can only be done with newborns and very
young children who haven’t grown up around their biological
parents.

This was one of the first types of adoption but more and
more people are opting for open adoptions now.

Closed adoption guarantees that the adoptive and biological
parents know nothing about each other. When the child
reaches age 18, they may want to find out about their
biological parents and that can sometimes be arranged by
certain organizations.

Closed adoptions are great for those who want to truly have
the feeling of being a parent with no outside interference.

Usually, the child is an infant or toddler when the
adoption occurs and the adoptive parents raise them
completely like their own blood.

This has some benefits to the adoptive parents that other
adoption choices don’t have. There is no dealing with the
biological family and very little chance of a difficult
situation arising in the future.

Closed adoptions can be easier on a child because to them,
they have always had one set of parents. As they grow up
however, these parents or other family members may reveal
to them that they are adopted and this can cause some
stress but if they are old enough, they can appreciate the
situation.

There are lots of services and counseling options that can
help a child if they find out they are adopted at the wrong
time.

Choosing An Adoption Agency

Adopting a child is a very big step in a couples life and
the choices and laws involved in this process might seem
overwhelming. One of the most important things you can do
is find an experienced adoption agency with an outstanding
reputation.

A good adoption agency can help you with all of your
decisions as well as give you a lot of advice and education
on the subject. The adoption process is very long and many
questions will arise. An adoption agency is there to answer
all your questions and ease your mind as much as possible.

One of the best ways to find an adoption agency is to ask
your doctor, church, or attorney. They may be able to refer
you to an adoption agency that they are familiar with and
have experience with.

It’s not a good idea to flip through the yellow pages
because you might get an agency that is brand new or has
placed children incompatibly in the past.

You should get as many referrals as possible to different
agencies so you can keep your options open and choose the
one that you feel comfortable with.

Adoption agencies will have someone interview you and
answer any questions you may have. Don’t agree to anything
just yet. Instead, attend a couple different interviews
with various agencies so you get a feel for them.

You can then decide what agency is the most appealing. You
can also ask the agencies for references. These references
are usually people who have used their services in the past
and can tell you how long it took and how the agency
treated them.

Adoption

In basic terms, adoption is when a child’s custody is given
to a person or two people that aren’t the biological
parents of that child.

Adoption permanently negates the biological parent or
parents from any responsibility of that child for the rest
of its life. The person or people that adopted the child
gain full custodial rights and there isn’t really a
difference between biological and adoptive parents in the
eyes of the law.

There are many different types of adoption that include
open adoption, semi-open adoption, and closed adoption.

An open adoption is when custody is given to non-biological
parents but the biological parents are entitled to visits,
letters, or other forms of contact.

The arrangements vary and can be very lenient or
restrictive depending on the situation. A semi-open
adoption gives the biological parents a chance to meet the
adoptive parents a few times.

This lets them have the option of choosing an open or
closed adoption at a later date. A closed adoption only
gives the adoptive parents medical records but not much
else. Little is ever known about the biological parents.
This can be due to governmental agencies placing the
children due to an unhealthy environment or abuse.

Many issues can contribute to a child being put up for
adoption. Some of the most common issues are when a mother
knows she cannot take care of her child or when a child is
removed from a parents home by a governmental agency
involved in social services.

This is generally a good thing for the child as they are
guaranteed to receive the treatment and care that they
deserve but circumstances vary greatly with each individual
case. Natural disasters or military actions can also put
children in situations where adoption is an option.

Adoption Dissolution

Nothing in the world can ever go as smoothly as we like.
This happens in all aspects of life and even in the world
of adoption. Occasionally, a child gets adopted into a
family and it doesn’t turn out to be the right move. There
could be a number of factors that could lead to an adoption
dissolution. This is often called « unadoption ».

Adoption dissolution isn’t very common when it involves a
newborn or infant. It becomes more frequent with foster
children who have problems adapting to their new
environment and other family members such as siblings.

Siblings might tease the adopted child constantly or the
adopted child might be very mean or abusive to new family
members. Often this can be resolved through counseling or
other forms of behavioral modification but not always.

Older children sometimes have a history of being adopted
many different times by various families. This doesn’t mean
they are bad children but could be due to medical issues.

ADHD and reactive attachment disorder can cause problems
for adoptive parents who don’t understand these disorders
completely and just can’t deal with them.

Sometimes adoption dissolution is the only choice so the
child can find a family better equipped to handle their
special needs.

Sometimes, the child might ask for an adoption dissolution.
In some states, the law allows children to request this if
they are at least 14 years old. The end result could place
them back into a foster home or with some other relatives.
This is a very emotional event that can affect parent and
child alike but may be unavoidable.